A Reality Check

[Guest mrclean0325]

I just want to share a few things as we come to the exciting conclusion of 2016.

Was it an exciting year for you? Did you attain what you are looking for out of life?

I find time and again the reason so many people in this line of work fall off quite frequently are the deadly F.U.D.s. FEAR - UNCERTAINTY - DOUBT

Let me take these one at a time and hopefully you will see how they are very interrelated.

FEAR - Fears are normal to an extent. In this business they usually are caused by False Evidence Appearing Real. In most cases the things people fear are a vapor. The popular media outlets fan these false ideals into a frenzy. If you listen to them the world is a dark and pitiful place full of danger and destruction.

you also get advice to go a certain direction. I have found if "everybody" is doing something you should go the other way.

You have to realize everyone has an agenda. They are all marketing their "idea" which can be a product, service, or just "something". If they can't make it attractive to you and convince you it is a "MUST HAVE" - they don't make any money. So counting on these people to have an objective and sane viewpoint is hoping for a LOT.

The biggest fear most have is a fear of failure. So you did something that didn't work - BIG DEAL! You have to move past this and continue going forward. Think about what your fears are and have been, have they come to reality? The answer most times is NO.

It is your responsibility for your own life to start THINKING logically and rationally. Just like Spock said, fear is illogical. Fear is totally based on emotions and you need to understand what buttons people can push to get your fear wagon rolling and disconnect them.

You have total control of what goes into your mind. Garbage in - garbage out. You will either control your own mind or let others control it for your through pushing your emotional buttons.

UNCERTAINTY - You have to realize there is no such thing as "certainty". The only thing you can be certain of in life is the sun will come up and then set. This will not change anytime soon even though they have been predicting the end of the world for centuries. Each day is a new day with new possibilities. Even having a "real" job does not bring certainty. Will the company go out of business in this economy? Will you get laid-off? Will you get enough hours to make the rent or other bills?

You never know what will happen when you start down the road to success. You WILL fall down a few times. It is inevitable. You will learn more from your failures than any successes you have. The successes cannot come without the knowledge of the failures. This equates to experience. Have you ever in your life "lucked" into something OR was it the accumulation of experience that made you "lucky"?

Learn to embrace uncertainty. Drink it in like a fine wine. You, in your heart of hearts, know if things were always "certain" it would be a very boring life. Fears create uncertainty in your life. If you had no fear, how uncertain would you be? If failure didn't even cross your mind - what is to be uncertain or afraid about?

DOUBT - The doubt comes in as a personal thing. You doubt whether you have the skills, knowledge, "gifts", special underwear, or whatever to create what you want out of life. This is probably the hardest one to overcome since it is so personal. It comes down to whether you believe in yourself and your goals.

Fears and uncertainties create doubt. Do you see how if you get rid of your fears it will make things SO much easier? You also have to realize it is a process and there is NO magic wand to remove them except you.


How do you overcome these?

An easy way I have found is to make a list of each one. Break them down and review each one. Why are these things on your list? Have they been on your mind? Why? Have they materialized in your reality? This is a tride and true sales technique. It has been used on you in the past I am sure. You are "selling" yourself on why most of your fears are pretty useless and stupid in reality.

Not to get too "woo woo" and out there, but what you put the most mental energy into will become your reality. You can either let "everyone" program you or you can take control of your mind. You have total control of what you program your mind to create in your life. If it is doom and gloom and failure - this is what you will produce in your life.

 

DRAMA!

 

Some people LOVE drama in their lives and go out of their way to create it. Even people with lots of money. Look at all the soap operas out there - drama is powerful stuff.

As I saw on a YouTube video - take a dramamine! Only you can change your life. Only you can make the decisions needed to create what you want in life. You have to take a very close look at what you are feeding your brain.

If you break down the FUDs into smaller pieces and realize some may actually happen, what is your backup plan? In other words if you are short on your rent, what will you do to fix it? There is always a "fix" BUT they may not be what you WANT to do. Sometimes you have to do the hard things we avoid. We have to do what is necessary, we have to survive don't we?

 

No matter what the state of the world, the economy, the politics, or anything else - there are ALWAYS people who thrive and succeed. Why is that when everyone else falls flat?

When I started to see most of the things I feared where not things that really happened and looked deeper into why I had them, life got a bit easier. When everyone is running around like chickens with their heads cut off from many of them - I just yawn and do some course correction. It does require looking ahead of you a bit. Most people look at life through their rear view mirror and miss a lot of things right in front of them.

Seeing the potholes and steering around them is easier than trying to figure out how to fix your flat tire after hitting one you didn't see because you were distracted with "fluff".

To become successful in our lives requires us to be like Neo in the Matrix. We have to start seeing our reality for what it is. We have to stop being sheep and realize the ONLY way for us to get out is our own effort since nobody is going to give you a few million so you can live the rest of your life in luxury. To be able to see beyond or current circumstances. To change ourselves so we can change our world. In other words take responsibility for our lives and actions.

 

We are exactly where we truly want to be in our current mindset. Every decision we have mode in our lives to this point has brought us here to this exact point in time. We did it to ourselves. If we are truly honest with ourselves we can see the road and decisions we took to get to where we are right now this very second. It was not our neighborhood, our parents, our spouse, our friends, our education or lack thereof, it wasn't anybody else - at each and every decision point WE had the final say. At the time we either didn't know better, were told wrong information, or we just weren't strong enough to make the right decision.

 

We have chosen to be right here. if you don't like it - change it! Make better decisions and learn from your past or be doomed to continually repeat it. The past is the past and there is NOTHING you can do to change it. Get over yourself and start looking the other way to the future. It is the only thing you can change. Like the song says, you have to look at the man in the mirror and make some decisions to change.

So for the coming year - will you change yourself to create the world you want or continue like you are and wonder next year at this same time why you are not where you want to be like you did last year, and the year before, and the year before that?